You’ve heard of the 5 love languages right? The concept is really fascinating to me and while I haven’t read the book, I often think about my “love language” or the way to my heart. Earlier this week, I was thinking about how people relate to each other. Maybe it’s a marriage relationship, or a friendship or even family, but we all have love languages and it’s hard sometimes…SO hard to respect them.
Have you ever found yourself thinking, Your love language is stupid! I shouldn’t have to do that!
I know I have.
What’s funny is that thought kinda defeats the whole concept doesn’t it? The point of a love language in the first place is to listen to another person and what really makes them happy or blessed and to do that thing even if you don’t really understand it. And by the way, this is not some veiled message to anyone, I just started thinking about it and got on a roll
So it made me wonder. How much are we really listening to each other? We love to talk it out and get our thoughts out of our brains. But once that has happened, do we then take the time to fill that space with how to help other’s needs? Or, are we quick to fill the space with more of our own thoughts? I can say without a doubt that I am severely guilty of the latter.
On the rare occasions though, when I have actually decided that stupid or not, I wanted to respect someone’s love language and bless them, it was amazing! They felt respected, I felt encouraged and honestly free from selfishness even if for a moment.
My love language is words of affirmation. Surprise surprise right? And I don’t mean it was first on the list. It was FAR and AWAY the top one for me. And here I am blogging and checking comments and feeling all Sally Fields every time someone “likes” me on facebook or retweets something I said. But you know what? My love language is NOT stupid and neither is yours. Instead of wondering why we are the way we are, wouldn’t it be great if we just listened to each other?
So tell me, what can I do to bless YOU today?