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In defense of mom jeans

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Do you ever feel like you are walking around day in and day out doing your thing, but you really have no idea what is going on in the world? That is sort of where I am right now. In part, this is self-imposed. For instance, I found myself getting really bitter and angry when I kept up with the daily news so I am on hiatus. I feel connected enough to know when I really need to tune in, but I’ve found that turning off the steady stream of negativity has improved my daily quality of life.

Likewise, I only have so much time in the day for extras like TV shows and the latest movies. I have seen exactly ZERO of the Oscar nominated films this year, save for the stereo-typically, parent-approved movie, Frozen (affiliate). Yes, I am that mom. I am 35 years old and while it feels mostly young, the gap is ever widening between me and cultural relevance.

I don’t care. 

That is maybe the most surprising to me of this aging process. When I was in college, my sisters who are a few years ahead of me in the mom process asked me questions about whether or not this or that thing is “in” anymore. I remember (in my naivete) making a mental note to never be in a position of having to ask someone else the answer to that question. But I feel the need to ask it every single day. Or, just not ask and get on with my life.

A mom jeans manifesto

Which brings me to mom jeans. Do you know why moms wear mom jeans? Do you think we WANT to look ridiculous or have rear pockets the size of a Birkin bag? (relevant!) No, there is not some switch that flips when you become a mom that says, I’ve made it! Time to get ugly! No, mom jeans exist because moms are constantly moving and bending and getting into unheard of positions to grab the toy or wipe the milk from the underside of the table as it leaks through the cracks of the extra leaf they added when the second child was born.

Mom jeans exist because we no longer have the luxury of wearing “standing only” clothing. We have body parts that are not nearly as kind to us as they used to be and we need somewhere to put them.

Also, we just don’t care as much about what you think. This isn’t to say we don’t want to be stylish or lost all hope of beauty. A walk through Target will tell you we are all still looking for the holy grail that combines beauty, comfort and functionality. But to say it truly matters is a bit of a stretch. I am also guessing you have better things to do than worry about the status of the way MY butt looks in MY jeans so you know, go do them.

I think it’s time we made some allowances for the moms in our lives and stopped requiring Hollywood perfection in addition to 1960s housewife standards and Millennial working woman expectations. Remember the reasons we got the title of “MOM”? That’s right, there are kids here. And we like them.

If you need some mom jeans to make you feel comfortable crawling under that Chick-fil-a booth to retrieve the baby’s pacifier yet again without revealing half your rear to unsuspecting crowds, you go right ahead. No judgement will come from me. Do what you need to do mama. The truth is, I’m wearing some right now. And you know what? I feel great.

Rock on with your mom jeans. Or not. Your pants are not my business.

*Photo via Flickr/Helga Weber

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Darcy Zalewski

Thursday 6th of March 2014

I think I've always worn "mom jeans." They are just regular jeans to me. I've never been up on fashion trends since they usually don't translate into plus sizes a lot of the time in my opinion. My only real fashion changes are nursing bras and diaper bag/backpack. Rock on with whatever you want to wear! :)

Brandy

Thursday 6th of March 2014

so where does this rank on the "I only wear yoga pants" scale? You didn't describe mom jeans...you describe jeans that fit. There is NO reason to buy the giant pockets. Just walk away, Andrea. PUT DOWN THE KEDS, ANDREA.

But yes to go with the others, jeggings are my friend. I got 3 pairs on super sale at target in the fall. BEST INVESTMENT EVER. They always fit, slide into my boots, and control my muffin top. WIN

Julie Meyers Pron

Wednesday 5th of March 2014

nicer looking leggings have changed my world (because, quite honestly, I can't wear most "mom jeans" because of my size and shape.) There is *nothing* as comfortable this winter. Thank goodness I bought several pair.

Lilkidthings

Thursday 6th of March 2014

I love leggings too! I say wear what makes you comfortable because it fits your life. And really, pants should be optional anyway :)

MelACulbertson

Wednesday 5th of March 2014

Haha! I'm definitely more of a jeans girl than a leggings one, partly because I need more leggings. LOL.

ALL my jeans have stretch in them. But I refuse to go as far as high waisted, giant pocketed pants!

Lilkidthings

Wednesday 5th of March 2014

I go mid-waist to keep things in but not go full muffin-top. It's a happy medium :)

Leigh Powell Hines

Wednesday 5th of March 2014

Great post. I had on some Old Navy skinny cords earlier and the extra five pounds I gained...didn't feel good in the stomach area in them...Got home and changed to velour pants. LOL> I am cofmortable.

Lilkidthings

Wednesday 5th of March 2014

Exactly! You have to be able to move around.

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