Oscar loves the Wiggles. We don’t have cable and for some reason we are in a kind of donut hole in the city where our antenna doesn’t pick up PBS. This means we are at the mercy of Netflix and our DvD collection.
We have 3 Wiggles Dvds and often times when it is time to watch, I pick the wrong one. This is usually a disaster as the child breaks into hysterics screaming OTHER ONE OTHER ONE!!! Of course I have no idea which one he wants so I would scramble to change discs and try to calm him down. After a couple times of this very frustrating display, I realized what he really wants is a new one.
Don’t we all.
It struck me that while I was jumping through hoops to make the boy happy, he never really got what he wanted and we both ended up frustrated. In the end I decided to make him stick it out and watch the one we chose together (or nothing at all) and life has been much easier.
All of this to say, you have to pick your battles in life and in parenting.
In this case initially, I just wanted to make him happy, but quickly learned that it wasn’t working and it was time for some tough love. And while it seems silly that this is about watching TV, I think it was a battle worth picking.
These are the lessons that can really only be learned by doing, learning your child and what works for them. Each new stage for Oscar is a new stage for me as his mama. I am still becoming mom almost 2 years after having him. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
What stage are you in? Are you picking your battles?