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Deep and Dark Brothers

Oscar and Calvin are 2.5 years apart. I think it’s a great age-gap and as a woman who grew up with only sisters, watching their brotherly relationship bloom has been quite the education.


Right now, it’s a love-hate relationship. Oscar is getting older and more independent, so we are giving him more responsibilities. One of his “jobs” is to pour Calvin’s cereal for breakfast, something he enjoys some days and detests on others.

Calvin loves to shout his demands and he is in a very demanding place right now, equal parts hungry boy and youngest child. But on a good day, there is nothing better than listening to them interact with each other.


Months ago, they created a game where they would lie in Calvin’s bed and while hiding under the covers they would chant, “Deep and dark brothers! Deep and dark brothers!” It was both hilarious and terrifying to watch.

The brothers part I get, but the foreboding imagery of “deep and dark” has me thinking we will need to watch them very closely. Of course to them, it’s very literal. They are in the darkness, deep under the blankets giggling. What else would they say?


There is a delicate balance between my vocabulary and theirs. We use the same words, but they often have very different meanings. Oscar is the most literal child I have ever met and Calvin is a total mockingbird. The 3 of us can all say the same sentence and mean it 3 different ways. I am speaking figuratively, Oscar takes it literally and Calvin thinks the joke we just told is hilarious.

Communication is fun!

The more these boys grow into their friendship though, they are forming their own language and learning about each other. They fight. They hug it out. They start all over. It’s exhausting and wonderful and I am just happy to be a fly on the wall taking it all in.


Right now, they are 6 and 3.5 (this is important). I’ve been thinking a lot about their ages and how we want to celebrate each stage. Now is the only time in my life that I will have boys ages 6 and 3.5 and I am embracing it.

I’m loosening my grip on my silly expectations and finding life here. I love those deep and dark brothers and I am straight up proud of the men they are becoming.




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Friday 24th of April 2015

There's nothing quite like the bond of two siblings! While it drives me nuts when our two don't get along, there are so many times when I catch them being unbelievably sweet and thoughtful to each other and it warms my heart!

Erin Lane

Friday 24th of April 2015

So sweet. Sibling bonds are so fun to watch. And when they can be friends is simply the best.

Shaughnessey Hurst

Thursday 23rd of April 2015

Beautifully said. My children were the same age difference but they were brother and sister. Now Jason is 19 an a Marine and Emma-Rae is 15.5 years and they will now say they are each others Best friend. The teenage years were rough between the two however now you can see how their relationship is back to exactly what you were saying today about the boys. Loved it. -Shaughnessey

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