Do you ever find a blog by accident and start reading because maybe you liked the picture or the banner was really nice or you thought hmmmm..this could be interesting? And then out of nowhere you are completely enthralled reading post after post and wondering how this person could have been writing for so long without your knowledge? Yeah, me too.
So, I clicked over to The Extraordinary Ordinary one day and I am not even sure how I got there. But something intrigued me so I started reading. At first she was talking about laundry and the smells of motherhood, how intoxicating they can be. And I completely identified. And I read about about her adorable sons, and having a son of my own, I identified. She talks about her faith and being a Christian, I identified.
And suddenly I was in her struggle. Me. A complete stranger, welcomed with open arms into her fresh wounds of Alcoholism. As I read about her bravery I found myself identifying. Not with alcoholism per say, but with an inner struggle to beat something that seems to take over. I found myself rooting for her. And for myself. Heather is now more than 3 months sober and during this time, I have been utterly moved by her willingness to share this personal journey with the world. And even in the midst of struggle, she is every mom. She is kind, funny and taking each day as it comes. Heather was kind enough to agree to an interview with me and I am so glad! Please read, enjoy and meet a woman who has truly been an inspiration to me!
I’m the mother of two small boys named Miles and Asher and I’m married to Ryan. We have a dog and she drives me nuts. I don’t really like playing cars or Star Wars or other boy things but I LOVE playing Hide-n-Seek and Guess Who. My blog is a random sampling of photos (because I pretend I’m a photographer), some free writing, some poem-like things, and posts in which I wax philosophical on all things motherhood, life, and sobriety. I am just over 3 months sober, I’m an alcoholic, and so that’s kind of a big deal right now. I often say that I write to find out what I’m thinking, and I do a whole lot of that these days.
I don’t, actually. I’ve always been quite a transparent person. Of course, I wasn’t transparent about my addiction for a very long time, but I would elude to my struggles and was honest about depression, doubt, fears, insecurity, etc. I feel pretty passionate about people being real. I’m not always sure that a blog is the place to be so real, but for the most part I’m comfortable with it because of the gifts I’ve received as a result. The friendships, the emails in which people say that I’ve helped them with my honesty, that sort of thing. If I can help even one person, it makes the risks worth it, you know?
Yeah, I’m getting kind of tired of people wanting to know about my hair-less armpit. Oh, I’m sorry. That’s not what you meant? OK, then. No, I don’t think there’s anything that’s totally off limits. If someone asked me to write about something personal, I probably would because I try to do that in a tasteful way. I don’t write about a lot of personal things but I do write about other personal things. I guess I just kind of roll with whatever I’m comfortable with at the time. It’s possible that I’m just simply overly impulsive, but I prefer to call all of that sharing honesty.
Sometimes I don’t find balance. Sometimes I’m online for far too much of a day, and then I usually try to lay off the webtastic sauce for a couple of days. I actually, quite geekily, use a timer a lot. I set it for fifteen minutes or whatever and I read a bunch of blogs or work on a post or say random stuff on Twitter and when the timer goes DING! I move on. It actually works pretty well on the days I’m too scattered and lazy to control myself. When he’s not traveling for work, my husband loves for me to go write on my own for a few hours every few days. I’m much easier to be around when I’ve gotten some writing in.
ONE? Oh my…well, I guess I would encourage moms to believe whole-heartedly that what they have to say matters. That their voice counts to many many someones out there and to write from that confidence.
I absolutely love getting together with fellow bloggers. I had a great time at BlogHer last year, even though I felt lost in a sea of online journalists. There were so many people!!! What’s beneficial about blogging events is the face-to-face connections. To see someone you blog-know come alive in 3-D is just such an honor and so much FUN. These connections solidify meaningful relationships because real-life connection just simply does that extra something. Once you’ve made those connections, you find a lot of support in the relationships, online and off. Sometimes that means that you have more of a cheering section when you need it and sometimes it’s the little things, like linky love and other blogging encouragement and networking.
What types of blogs do you like to read?
I love reading mommy blogs, writery writer blogs, and humor blogs. I love reading people who share their hearts and pour words on the page that make magic. Is that a bit much? Make magic? Well, I think they do, so there.
I love going through the archives of my blog, but most of us have been blogging only a few years of our adult lives. What is something that happened in your pre-blogging days that you would love to go back and blog about?
I have so many stories from my social work years. A lot of crazy things happened with my clients and I grew a lot through those experiences. I’d like to blog about those experiences and now that I think about it, I suppose I could!
I could have asked so many more questions! But that will have to be enough for now. Read more at Heather’s blog or catch her on Twitter! It was an honor to interview you Heather! Thank you again for chatting with me and thank you for sharing your Extraordinary Ordinary!