This is something I never said enough. I never asked my grandparents enough questions. They were amazing people with so much to offer me and I just didn’t think to ask. I have one remaining grandmother whom I love dearly. She and I still write letters. Hand-written letters. I know it is getting harder for her because of her age *over 90* but she still does it. What kind of love is that?
She is an amazing woman. Her mother was too poor to care for both of her daughters, so she gave my grammy to her own mother to be raised. I don’t know what happened to her father, but I don’t think he was in the picture much. So grammy was raised by her grandparents and turned into an amazing and independent woman. She was on the girls basketball team in high school and went on to the working world after that, mostly bookkeeping. She was so unusual for her time and so vibrant and intelligent. She still takes notes in shorthand and can rattle off the 20 different medications she is on and what each one is for. She laughs and cries when she talks about memories of my grandfather. She is alone now.
Growing up I always admired her relationship with him. They were a real team. They baked pies together, went on vacations and worked in the rose garden. They would watch the Price is Right every day and each time I came to visit, we would play cards after dinner til it was time for bed…they always let me stay up a little late. Recently my mother was going through an old game of theirs, Skip-Bo….it had a score sheet of over 200 games that my grandparents had played. The on-going game was tied. They even did the dishes together (she would wash/he would dry) My grampy was incredible. He was a baker-turned-farmer and had a heart of gold. Even though he passed away over 15 years ago, Grammy still wears her wedding band.
How did a woman with her background turn into such an amazing role model? What was their system of trust that allowed them such long-lived happiness? I wish I knew how to acheive that kind of life. I want to have stories to tell. I wish I had asked more questions.