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Hormones, hair, having it all and going bald.

by Andrea Updyke

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I have spent my life trying to understand my hair. I am a firm believer in loving the hair you have and making the most of it. I don’t like to use a lot of products and I rarely color it, if at all. I mean sure I went through phases where I tried different things. But at the end of the day, I tried to just go with the flow.

Which would be fine if my hair had any kind of “flow”.

Up until I was a tween-ish aged girl, my hair was ssssstraight. I couldn’t buy a curl to save my life. When I was just shy of my 12th birthday, I remember using hot rollers for my sister’s wedding with about a half a can of hairspray. It was all but gone by the time I walked down the aisle.

young straight hairwavy at best. don’t hate because you didn’t have a tropical flower dress. 

Sometime in the following months, my hair (and my hormones) began to change. It started with a massively frizzy puff ball front and center and eventually surrounded my once straight hair with a giant brillo pad. It was a painful year or two of trial and error trying to figure out just WHO my hair wanted me to be. Was I the girl from Out of This World or Chelsea Clinton? We had a real problem.

HS college hair

I came to accept the fact that along with puberty, my hair transformed from completely straight to COMPLETELY curly. My high school and college years looked like the two photos on the bottom of that collage up there. The two on the top? Well…they really happened.

(ps. My apologies to the girls in the top right pic. I don’t remember any of your names so you don’t get protection from being subjected to this blog. I think we can all agree that I (tied shirt, black shorts) am not the shining star of that photo. Plus your clothes are awesome).

And then I had Oscar and my hair had another crisis. I could still wear it curly, but it was much more relaxed. I cut it short so I could easily straighten it if the mood struck. I had the best of both worlds! I finally had hair that would basically submit to my every whim. And I liked it.

Hair after Oscar

And then I had Calvin.

This time, along with going back to completely straight, my hair is actually falling out. I heard that I should start taking Biotin so I am doing that and I also cut my snappy bangs which I totally love.

bangs

 Heeey bangs, how YOU doin?

But the curl is gone gone gone. So gone that this week I decided to go out and buy a set of curlers to see what would happen. Not only do I think curled hair with this hairstyle completely aged me, the curls fell out in about 20 minutes, just like when I was 12. The hot rollers are going back to the store and I am going back to wondering what I should do next.

hair

I fully expect to be wig shopping by the time I hit menopause.

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Erin Carnahan Lane February 22, 2013 - 2:07 pm

You are adorbs. And i hear ya…I have always had uber fine hair. Post kids, it’s practically nothing and I know (I’ve seen my mom’s mom) what is coming. I am a sad panda.

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:32 pm

Why is being a woman so freaking HARD!?

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Tanya M February 22, 2013 - 2:17 pm

I can’t believe the hair transformations with each hormonal change/baby. So many women pay for different looks and you get them naturally 🙂 I hope you find something to help you with your hair falling out.

I have very thick, curly, frizzy, poofy hair which takes a lot of product to tame. I love getting it straightened and my kids love to run their fingers through my straight hair which is impossibly painful when it’s curly. I have given up on doing anything different to it, cause it takes me an hour for the hairdresser to straighten it. I’m stuck with it but trying hard to appreciate what I’ve got. It’s a battle, my head and hair is like the triangular haired woman from the Dilbert cartoon right now…I need a haircut…desperately.

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:32 pm

I totally know what you mean about running your fingers through! I still sometimes can’t stop doing it. I am so not used to that!

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Hillary Chybinski February 22, 2013 - 2:35 pm

I think you have GREAT hair!

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:31 pm

Why thank ya 🙂

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Kelly Gropp-Krulik February 22, 2013 - 2:37 pm

I feel your pain. My hair has gone through total color transformation due to hormones (those related to age…no babies here). I used to have a rich brunette natural color and now have an absolutely natural “washed out brassy strawberry brown gone wrong with no luster” color. And I’m losing hair…a lot of hair. The doc said Biotin for me too and it definitely makes my hair grow. Not sure if it’s giving me back the hair I lost though. Am also using Nioxin 4 hair products and that seems to help too. The bottom line is you’re gorgeous whether sporting poker straight or wild curls! Sometimes it’s easier said than accepted, but we really are our most beautiful selves when we embrace our natural beauty 🙂

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:31 pm

Thank you Kelly!! I am glad you like the Biotin. I just started taking it so I can’t tell yet if it’s helping. I will have to check out Nioxin 4 too. Thanks for the tip!

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Andrea B February 22, 2013 - 3:11 pm

NO WAY. Those curls? Get OUT!

And you totally answered my question today with your post. I asked in my very second VLOG ever what hairdo-s were yours in high school! Not YOURS, but anyone’s!

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:30 pm

It took me SO long to figure out how to style that madness. Years!

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Lolli February 22, 2013 - 3:37 pm

I feel your pain! I have gone from straight blond to curly blond-ish. I went for YEARS having a perm because my hair couldn’t decide on its own what to do. 🙂

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:29 pm

It’s so frustrating! No wonder I can never figure out what I want to be when I grow up!

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Jessica @FoundtheMarbles February 22, 2013 - 7:29 pm

You are so cute and those pics ROCK, my friend.

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:29 pm

Thank you! I suppose I should also thank my parents 🙂

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Paige Puckett February 22, 2013 - 8:02 pm

I LOVE the snappy bangs 🙂

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:28 pm

Thanks friend!

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Jessica Lieb February 24, 2013 - 5:00 pm

I want pictures of your Felicity stage! long then short… I think that would make for a good follow up post!

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:28 pm

I feel like I could do a whole post about each stage. All my lives.

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ConnieFoggles February 25, 2013 - 1:03 am

What a difference. You look beautiful with all of your hair styles. Now, bald…I’m not too sure!

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Lilkidthings February 25, 2013 - 1:28 pm

No shame in wearing a wig! I’ve always wanted to be a blonde again 😉

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Lisa February 26, 2013 - 9:25 am

Oh babe. I’m feeling you. My hair has thinned on the top due to hormones, so I recently added biotin as well. Periods of extreme stress will also cause your hair to have a “sloughing off” period about six months post stress. We shall compare notes, soon!

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Beth Avant February 26, 2013 - 1:36 pm

HA! I wanted to smack reese witherspoon when she said the reason her hair looks good is b.c she just had a baby.. I’m like no its because you have extensions. 🙂

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