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My VBAC Manifesto

by Andrea Updyke

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I am 40 weeks pregnant now and thinking about the last 9 (really 10) months. In some ways, it’s been a far more relaxed pregnancy. In other ways, life has seemed to crumble around us at different times. You take the good with the bad.

This time around I haven’t read nearly as much, haven’t asked as many questions and I haven’t obsessed about every little detail of every little thing like I did with Oscar. For the pregnancy, it was nice. Now that I am nearing (??) the birth, not so much. I am antsy and ready to get this show on the road, but also realizing that I don’t even know if I am really actually READY for a newborn. I am also not really sure I am ready to push a baby all the way out of my body.

Neat, huh? Guess I will just handle it as it comes.

As for the birth, I have mentioned my desire for VBAC before and as I face the actual possibility that it might happen, I have a few thoughts. I’m calling it my VBAC Manifesto. We’ll see how I feel on the other side heh.

My VBAC Manifesto!

  • I desire to birth my baby naturally with as little intervention as possible
  • I do not want an elective C-Section
  • I will try to wait it out and let this baby come on his own time even though it is sucking the very life out of me
  • I will allow myself grace
  • I will reserve the right to change my mind
  • I will remember that this is my birth and every woman is different
  • I will not compare my body and my birth to anyone else ‘s
  • I will vocalize my fears and remember that God is in control
  • I will ask my support team to remind me of these things when I forget them
  • I will read 2 Timothy 1:12, Isaiah 55:9 and remember that the opposite of fear is faith as I labor
  • I will delete the word fail from my vocabulary if things don’t go as planned
  • I will know that I am surrounded by love and support as I go down this path
  • I will doubt my doubts
  • I will love my new baby boy and rejoice over him the minute he is in my arms

I know whom I have believed and I am convinced that He is able to guard what I entrusted to Him for that day 2 Timothy 1:12

As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. [says the Lord] – Isaiah 55:9

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Shayla @Courageous Hope July 16, 2011 - 8:58 pm

Wonderful! So proud of you! Praying for the birth your heart desires and the grace and strength you need. Meditate on scripture and let it be the strength and peace you need. 🙂 hugs

2 Corinthians 12:9-10
New Living Translation (NLT)
9 Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. 10 That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you do not fear; I will help you!” Isaiah 41:3

Hines-Sight Blog July 16, 2011 - 9:16 pm

Best wishes, Andrea. I’ll be thinking of you. Leigh

Alissa July 16, 2011 - 9:16 pm

I love this post. What a beautiful manifesto! Wishing you a peaceful, speedy and successful VBAC!

jessica July 16, 2011 - 9:26 pm

love it.
i specifically remember being mid-contraction with noah saying, “no, no, I can’t do it” then remembering to choose to NOT be afraid and to let go and trust. Then changing what I was saying, still mid-contraction, to “yes, come on baby” It was so amazing how just that change in my mid-set made the world of difference. Made the contractions almost bearable. I had to do that several times and every time “choosing” to let go always made it better. It was never my natural instinct but a choice I had to make.

praying for you and sending lots of love your way!

Erin L July 17, 2011 - 9:46 am

You can DO it! No matter what comes your way….you can and will do it. I’ll be thinking of you this week. Can’t wait to meet that baby boy.

Alex@LateEnough July 17, 2011 - 4:46 pm

You can do it! Whatever ‘it’ turns out to be.

MommaDJane July 17, 2011 - 5:04 pm

I bet you are more ready to have a newborn than you think. I hope he comes soon and the labor is easy. Praying you don’t have to go through a c-section.

Shannon July 17, 2011 - 7:59 pm

I love this post! What a great gift to yourself to have a manifesto written before labor!

Emily@Zweber Farms July 18, 2011 - 8:04 am

Best wishes! I wish I could have had a VBAC. We live in a rural area and with no trama hospitals nearby it is not allowed by our small town hospital. I prayed a lot to the Virgin Mary before my delivery. As the mother of our Lord she gives strength and courage. Best wishes!


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