Wow, I wasn’t expecting this one to come up so soon. Alas, it seems we are entering the wild and wacky world of social interaction and I find myself totally unprepared! Yesterday, we had some friends over to play. In the past, since our friends’ babies are several months older than Oscar, they play and Oscar lays around looking at them. But yesterday, he was much more active and interested in GETTING. THAT. TOY. You know, the one SHE has. Of course no baby is immune to this behavior, but it was so odd to see Oscar all grabby. I know he doesn’t understand it and I found myself wondering how in the world parents know what to say in these situations. Thankfully, my friend is a pro and she went about re-directing her daughter to bigger brighter things. So, I just started copying what she said. That’s respectable right? I did run interference a couple times and nothing really came of it. But I could tell that Oscar was all, whoah, why isn’t she giving me what I want? I ALWAYS get what I want. I am the only baby in the universe right? Buddy, just wait until you have a sibling.
So, this is new territory. It’s like I have my own little social experiment going on over here and we are all spinning in circles. It’s hard watching Oscar become frustrated when he can’t get something or lacks the mobility that he needs to go where he wants. It’s hard not to jump right in and say oh here you go and save him the trouble. But with hard work comes great payoff right? The more I hang back and let him figure it out, the faster he learns. I don’t want him to be a bully so I will need to teach him to play nice. The learning never ends. He LOVES praise (especially clapping) so I am sure to reward him when he tries really hard.
They say that babies around this age discover that they are separate from their mothers, but they don’t really talk about the effect it has on the mothers! It’s a little sad to realize that Oscar is separate from me and needs more freedom. I don’t want to be a “helicopter mom”, hovering over him and giving him everything he wants before he knows he wants it. But I want to be there when he has truly tried and still needs help. Seriously, why are there not classes on this?