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Walking the Line and other Lessons from Type-A-Mom

by Andrea Updyke

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Blogging is a crazy beast. Most bloggers will tell you that every aspect, no matter how big or small, is a balancing act.  Whether one blogs for fun, for money, or for community and even a combination of them all, there are many right ways to do it. And if you ask me, few ways to do it wrong.

I spent the weekend with hundreds of the most inspiring, talented, controversial, encouraging, uplifting, complicated, and humble women in blogging. My goal for the weekend was to absorb as much as I could. I had no idea that I might be giving as well. After all, what could I possibly have to give? I “just” blog about my family and my life. I’m “no expert”. I “only” have a handful of followers. Sure, I was able get a Sponsor, but I am so far from where I want to be. What if I am invisible? What I realized, is that none of that matters really.

It doesn’t matter.

While goals and growth are good, above all you really just have to be true to yourself. Getting caught up in the who’s who and what’s what can be exhausting. And if you are thinking this is the stuff after school specials are made of, think again.

Kelby Carr, Deb Ng, and David Griner

The women (and men) I learned from have risen to the top, overcome adversity, succeeded against all odds and empowered thousands of others to do the same. I left Asheville wanting to leap from mountain top to mountain top with my new power giving knowledge. I left wanting to get back to my roots of writing for the sake of writing, to explore new ways of getting my words “out there” and to enjoy the ride! I left with the understanding that blogging  IS business. And the better businesswoman I can become, the better my chances are at succeeding.

But blogging success isn’t only measured by Forbes.com. Sure there are a handful of uber-bloggers who land on the magazine’s pages, but much like motherhood, a blogger’s success is also measured in community and love and reciprocal actions.

And these things are what makes blogging so much more than a paycheck.

I now have an arsenal of information to pour through and implement here. I hope it will make visiting Lil-Kid-Things a more enjoyable experience and allow me to do what I love with balance. I am excited for the challenge and the journey and all that comes with it.

If all else fails, eat chocolate!

Thanks again to my fellow Type-A-Moms for showing me that blogging is so much more than words on a screen. And thank you to each and every person who visits this space. Whether there are 10 or 10 thousand, you make Lil-Kid-Things what it is for me.


I was Sponsored by Flatout Bread to attend this conference. Thanks again to my awesome sponsor!

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Kimberly September 28, 2010 - 9:21 am

This post? Is awesome-sauce. Blogging is so much more than a popularity contest. I started blogging because I was dealing with postpartum depression and needed an outlet and needed to badly connect with other moms going through the same. I also hoped that in my journey that I would be able to help out other moms. And now, not only do I still blog about PPD and bringing awareness, I blog about my life. It’s a bit of an addiction I’d say.
But there is so much power in our words…
PS. I am a lurker of yours 😉

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:52 pm

Thank you so much for commenting! My blog has been an evolution as well, but I love that. I only stumbled upon this amazing community when I became a mom. It’s truly one of a kind.

Lori @ Just Pure Lovely September 28, 2010 - 9:32 am

Thanks for posting! I don’t think we met at the conference, darn it, but that’s all the more reason to go back: to meet even more who do what I do. I love knowing you gals are out there.

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:53 pm

I agree! I can’t wait for next year!

Cintia September 28, 2010 - 1:00 pm

I saw you at Type A but I don’t think I introduced myself. It was my first conference and I loved it as well! I’ll be following you here!

Heather Solos September 28, 2010 - 1:22 pm

Conferences are always hectic and completely overwhelming experiences for me. More of a good thing than a bad. I don’t know if we met over the course of the weekend, but it does me good to hear you got a lot out of the Type-A Mom Conference.

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:51 pm

It’ so funny how that happens! I met SO many people at BlogHer, but so few at Type-A! I think the conditions were just really good to get into great conversations and I didn’t float around as much.

Sue Robinson September 28, 2010 - 2:19 pm

I love that you call it home. I love that. It is your home and you can come and go as you please. The moment the pleasure is gone, it turns into something else, something less lovely than the adorable home you have made for yourself.
I am so glad I got to get to know you better this past weekend. You are going places girl, I can feel it!

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:53 pm

Sue, I can’t tell you how great it was for me personally to have shared the ride and a room with you! I had a blast and you are a huge part of why the weekend was such a success!

Lydia September 28, 2010 - 8:25 pm

Thank you for this post on blogging. I have way less followers than you do! I have blogged a long time but privately, only recently brave enough to open up to the outside world.

Thank you for commenting on my (in)courage post today!

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:54 pm

I loved your post! I honestly believe there is a market for every blog. Congrats on being brave enough to share your words with us!

Robin ~ PENSIEVE September 29, 2010 - 7:37 am

As we’ve already noted on Twitter, you and I didn’t meet but DO follow each other :). What a shame…I kept seein’ you (you’re so easily recognized from your avatar), but I guess we never were at a table together.

Anyway, I love your take-away on this. Blogging does fulfill different needs for each person and it’s okay for those things to differ. What’s lovely is that EVERYONE has something of value to offer; sometimes the one person we affect is more significant than 1000s reading.

Great post!


Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:57 pm

Thank you so much! I hate that I didn’t get a chance to speak to you at the conference. And I agree about the numbers. It’s easy to get out of balance when staring at all the stats, but I keep reminding myself that these numbers represent actual PEOPLE. Who are READING what I write! That in itself is amazing and every single person is important.

Heather @ Not a DIY Life September 29, 2010 - 5:42 pm

So many great moments at Type-A. I also felt permission to just be “me.” That being me is genuine and attractive and acceptable.

Loved meeting you as a fellow “bouncer” for the wine reception! Love your spirit and love for life!

Andrea September 29, 2010 - 10:58 pm

It was great to meet you too! I am so glad you came away with the same feelings. It really was a great weekend.

Mary@Everyday Baby Steps October 2, 2010 - 4:49 pm

Great advice on blogging. It really is so important to do your own thing because there are SO MANY things we could be doing. It just doesn’t make sense to try to do them like somebody else. Thanks for the reminder!

ConnieFoggles October 12, 2010 - 12:04 am

Andrea, we didn’t really speak, but every time I saw you, I got a genuine smile and a hello from you. I feel like I know you from that! I’ve been following you on Twitter and your blog for a while also.

I felt empowered too by my time at Type-A Mom. You have inspired me by your post and by what you do at your home. Love that way of thinking about blogging!

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